Remembering Thamiris
After the sad news came that Thamiris had passed away, many of her friends and fans posted memorials and tributes.
Here are excerpts from some of them. Click the author's name to read the full original post.
ndancer wrote:
I had hoped so much that we would all have more time with her. Wherever she is, I hope she knows how much we miss her. I hope she has many beautiful naked men fulfilling her every whim. I hope she has a chance to take tea and exchange bawdy jokes with Chaucer. I hope she finally knows deep in her heart how much her stories meant to so many people.
acampbell wrote:
A light has gone out - forever.
Thamiris, I will always remember your kindness, your wonderful fics, your rampant Clex love and your beautiful spirit. I have saved all our personal correspondence and will keep it forever. Thank you for your generosity, and just for being you.
You will be deeply missed.
madelyn wrote:
Thamiris was always gracious, supportive and kind to me. I treasured her presence in Smallville fandom, and missed her this last year. Even in the middle of her illness, she was always witty, beautiful and her words jumped off the page at you.
arebella wrote:
Thamiris: founder of the KSmithAres list, gifted writer and story-teller. She left us way too soon with so many stories left unwritten.
Tham and I go way, way back, to the beginnings of the Herc/Xena fandom. Tham always had my back in the old days and even when we weren't on the best of terms, I admired her for being willing to speak up for what she believed in.
She could tell a story with the finest of the fanfic writers. She was simply one of the best writers of any genre to ever take the characters so loved by the Herc/Xenaverse Nation and weave them into stories. Period.
Even though she wrote very little het in her later years, she knew how much I had always loved the het she wrote early on, particularly her wonderful Songs My Grandmother Taught Me, which I nominated in a fanfic contest as one of the best Herc/Xena stories ever. As a special birthday present to me one year, she sent me a story she had written especially for me. There can be no greater tribute to a writer like Tham than to be remembered for her work - the work that gave so many readers so much pleasure and so much inspiration. As my lasting tribute to my friend Tham, I am posting the story link here: Vibrations of a Bell.
Rest well, my friend. Your battle is over now and you've won the peace you deserve. I am a better person and a better writer for having known you and your work. You will always be with me when I read your stories and remember you as a superb storyteller and as a friend who always had my back.
fabrisse wrote:
Thamiris was a great writer and a good friend. When I posted about my mugging, she got back to me immediately offering help both moral and im. I was lookng forward to the day I could catch up with her. And it never came. Her website, Odysseys and Ecstasy, is being preserved. The woman could write -- most of it is adult explicit slash, even the Lucifer/God story. Yes, you read that right. I miss her.
sealwhiskers wrote:
She was such a wonderful writer... Thousands of pages of glorious text of hers affected people all over the world, without her having been printed.
lobelia321 wrote:
I am very, very sad. I loved reading Thamiris's posts. She was such an essential and life-affirming and kind presence on my Flist. I will miss her terribly. I already missed her terribly during her long absence and am so very sad that her icon and her baroque prose and her luscious, sexually bold stories will simply be gone from my every day. She was a generous and thoughtful person, embraced life and fandom and with a rich understanding of sexuality that spilled over into a lustful gusty love of words. She always had such interesting ideas and I never heard her utter one unkind word or wanky thing. She was very respectful of others' views.
She was an academic on the west coast of Canada, and she loved medieval English literature and managed in truly uplifting ways to connect this to her lust for Smallville. It was she who introduced me to the world of vibrators by means of her hilarious Ode to the Vibrator. She wrote a gorgeous Harry Potter fic called ...Lies in the Rookery which gives you a taste of her attention to words and her sensual love of language. Her kindness comes through in her fannish guide for newbies. She loved fandom in all its manifestations, and her every post got seventy plus comments because she was just so lovely and beloved.
I will miss her terribly. An online death is a very strange thing, and we are the first generation to have to learn to deal with it, and with the memorial of a dead person remaining in form of their very vibrant and alive LiveJournal. It is so strange, but as others have said, an online death is no less sad and an online friendship no less real than an offline friendship. It works on different levels, and sometimes on deeper levels.
I miss you, dearest, sweetest Thamiris. I loved having you in my life and I'm grateful that I knew you, for a while.
tingler wrote:
Thamiris wasn't a terribly prolific poster. Weeks and weeks could go by without a new entry--but when she did, you knew it was going to be good. And then she didn't post for a long, long, long time and just about when I was starting to wonder if she'd wandered away from LJ for good, she showed up with some story about having cancer or something and not wanting to bother any of us with all that. I was so happy she was back and, y'know, I just assumed everything was going to be all right, she was getting better, she was posting again with all her former fabulousness and then... gone.
I never even met her yet I loved her very much.
boniblithe wrote:
I loved Thamiris enormously. I have some of our saved IM chat logs that go back to sometime in 2002, and I take them out and read them every now and then, and they make me smile. She had such a way with language, such a love of words. She wrote a long entry that I will never forget, about the sensuality of architecture, that made me look at buildings in a whole new light.
There is a boy in my class who has inky black, thick hair, kept cropped short but you can see by the wave that if it were longer it would be a mass of curls. He has an aqualine nose, porcelain skin, angular jaw. When I look at him I think to myself that he looks like an old Roman statue. When I look at him, I think, Thamiris would love him, would write lyrically about him, things that would have me splashing cold water on my face.
I miss her all the time, and she's never far from my heart.
jenna_thorn wrote:
We never met, I never saw her face, and yet I miss her. Her enthusiasm for literature, indeed for the world, was infectious and she made it a more exciting place by giving us her view of it.
Ingridmatthews wrote:
An accomplished academic without the arrogance, a brilliant and innovative writer, a decent, humorful person. It breaks my heart that the world no longer has her in it. It needs more like her, certainly not less. What a loss.
literaryll wrote:
Her language is ripe with everything she gave to fandom - passion, hilarity, insight, warmth. Smallville fandom is so lucky to have had her. More than that - we are all lucky to have had her no matter what she was fangirly or talking about. She was a fucking gift.
When I was new on LJ Thamiris was unfailingly kind to me, and though we never really shared any fandoms, she made sure she always remembered who I was when I commented and made me feel welcome at all times. She was a good person.
thepouncer wrote:
I think of her often - so many associations, because she was such a talented writer and drew upon all facets of life. And I miss her often too. It still hurts that she's not there.
destina wrote:
Thamiris raged and was gleeful with equal intensity, and she loved the things she loved, and wasn't shy about her writerly neurosis, and gave some of the most beautiful feedback ever out of sheer kindness, and I can't stand it that that kind of light was just winked out.
Thamiris made me feel so welcome when I first discovered LJ -- and I was just one amongst the myriad of readers enthralled by her posts and stories. In its purest form, LJ is a place where we know each other by our words alone. Tham's words were -- and remain -- passionate, gracious, incisive, exuberant, and always, always worth reading.
I remember when she first posted about her cancer, I cried so much. It's nothing to what I've done since. I will try to think porny thoughts, though, because she would love that. I owe her, since her posts were always a bright spot for me.
Jen wrote:
The KSmithAres mailing list was my first online fandom and my very first foray into slash. I couldn't possibly have experienced a better inauguration into either world. I have never found anywhere like the KSA list in the happy acceptance of het and slash alongside one another, the lack of taboos, the quality of feedback and discussion and the round robins. It takes more than one person to make a community, and I made some wonderful friends there, yet the driving force behind the list, the reason it had so much of the singular character it did, was surely due to Thamiris.
Tham was always enthusiastic and incredibly generous with her time, knowledge, and feedback. She kept the list active, engaging and fun with a multitude of different challenges. I learned so much from her feedback (both on my work and that of others) and her fun and supportive tutorials. I'm very glad that I had the opportunity to know her.
That much passion and lust for life? Continues. Abides. There should be smut and good food in her honour, and a libation poured on the ground. And I just bet Kevin Smith met her in the Elysian Fields.
svilleficrecs wrote:
If I had to point to one writer as the most influential to me, the one who showed me, early on, that stories could be whip smart and blistering hot, it would be you. Thank you for the great reading. You will be missed.
earis wrote:
The incomparable Thamiris has passed. My words are insufficient to explain how amazing she was, how her LJ entries were some of the most thought provoking and exciting reading material I have ever experienced. I attribute many of my beliefs about fandom and fanfiction and the role of the active viewer/reader to her influence. I reread her stories often, letting the weight of her words vibrate in my bones. I respected her immeasureably, both for her brainy awesomeness and for her amazing spirit. She did not bring the hate to fandom, only the love. She did not try to be hurtful, only tried to spread joy. Others have said more and better than I can, but I will miss this woman and I will honor her.
talitha78 wrote:
Thamiris was and will continue to be a great force for good in fandom. Her writing is a beautiful legacy - she touched many people's hearts with her words and her kindness. Thank you, Thamiris, for all that you gave us.
amanuensis1 wrote:
Thamiris loved slash, and wrote clever essays, and I really liked her. She made my days brighter.
lanning wrote:
God, what a brilliant, sexy, classy lady. A ferociously talented, passionate writer who chose her words with an inspired precision that could, if she chose, leave her readers either uplifted, in quivering shreds, or heading for the nearest available cold shower. She will never be forgotten by anyone who knew her, however tangentially. Peace and joy to her, wherever her spirit travels.
niciasus wrote:
The beautiful and wonderful writer, Thamiris, will be sorely missed in Fandom. Thamiris was an awesome writer, and her LJ posts a treasure trove of sparkly, twisted, humorous, and deep discussions. I miss her.
matryoshkarose wrote:
Tham, you were a brilliant writer, and an altogether amazing presence in fandom. You will be greatly, greatly missed. I wish you peace.
neo-nym wrote:
She was a woman I never met in person, but her spirit was alive in her words and the things she wrote of, life, love, pain, and courage. I miss her.
hesychasm wrote:
Thamiris was really brave in the face of a terrible illness, and an absolutely amazing writer, someone whose LJ I could just go to, pick an entry at random, and be blown away by the power of her words. And she was one of the most generous and loving people in fandom. We were all lucky to have connected with her, even in a small way.
hackthis wrote:
The wonderfully talented and brilliant Thamiris was always exceedingly kind and giving. She will be greatly missed.
darthhellokitty wrote:
Words can't express how sorry I was to hear of her passing. She was an amazing person, funny and smart and friendly, and she could do just about anything with words. And indeed, nobody ever appreciated the pretty more than Thamiris. I'll miss her.
selfinduced wrote:
I once knew of a woman so beautiful in words that a sentence from her was enough to make me glow for days. Her words were all I knew of her and yet they were enough to imprint me with such a strong sense of personality that she was more real than most of the people I've met face to face. In my head she's tied up in every painting and sculpture i've ever loved (Michaelangelo, Bosch, rococco and neoclassicist, Dutch realism) - in every curve in the rosettes on all the gothic cathedrals, every verse of Chaucer or Coleridge.
I don't want to say 'Rest in peace, Thamiris,' because I can't imagine her as resting and silent - everything she said to me embodied defiance, heady and rich with metaphors and literary-lust and I'd rather think of her as a new addition to the School of Athens, painted in with the same fannish adoration Raphael used to add himself. maybe along with Kurt Vonnegurt and every other hero I've ever had.
Here's to your glory and all that you've taught those of us lucky enough to have known you, however briefly. I hope you're raising hell with intellectual discourse and literary orgasms where you are.
musesfool wrote:
Thamiris was a ballsy, talented lady, a real dame, and I mean that in the absolute best sense, and I was always impressed with the way she used words, not just in her stories, but in her posts, in her comments, in her feedback. Her presence on my flist - in my fannish life - will be missed. I feel like there should be porn in her honor, dirtyhot and lush, full of linguistic arabesques and joy, the way her posts and stories always were.
raveninthewind wrote:
I have long admired her writing, her luscious way with words, and her passion for male beauty. She played with words masterfully, conjuring up images that linger in the mind.
kristispyder wrote:
Thamiris was a bit of a hero to me. I never knew her true name. She was heavily involved in the Smallville fandom, a bit involved with Harry Potter, and I read her blog entries ravenously.
She was a self proclaimed pornographic goddess. She was tawdry, and literary, and smart, and completely vulgar in the most delightful way. She was vivacious and and her wit was quick and sharp. She did not suffer fools or people who took themselves to seriously. And I think it was her most ardent dream to see Clark and Lex make out on her living room floor (and then join them, of course).
I feel like there is much less light in the world. And I loved her even though I never really knew her. I think just knowing she was out there somewhere meant that the passion I put into fandom was not silly. That fanfiction was just another form of fiction. Because if Tham agreed, it couldn't possibly be any other way.
I will miss you Tham, you affected my life and I will be forever grateful.
spankys wrote:
She was such a beautiful writer. I still remember her comparing Smallville to a good-looking but dumb boyfriend. Just when you think of leaving him, he does something adorable and you can't leave. I've been reading what other people are saying about her and I think of what E.B. White said about Charlotte in Charlotte's Web: 'It is not often that someone comes along who is a true friend and a good writer. Charlotte was both.' So was Thamiris.
no-detective wrote:
My grief for Thamiris is real. She was an incandescent presence, gracious and brilliant, funny and wise. She was my role model in combining analysis, imagination, contemplation, and sheer unapologetic joy in the pleasures so many of us shared here. I hope that she was aware of how much she meant to so many people she'd never met face to face. In my world, she was miraculous. I'll never forget her.
kristiinthedark wrote:
Tham had this way of making people who commented in her journal feel special, like she'd been waiting for them to stop by. I think part of me has been waiting for her to post, hoping that she'll post, and I just can't believe that she won't. She's forever a fangirl, and I will miss her.
carolandtom wrote:
She was really nice to me when I was just a shy newcomer. I won't forget her.
corinna-5 wrote:
Well, fuck.
Thamiris was such a distinct presence, and she took so much sensual, vividly-described pleasure in things, that it's nearly impossible to believe she's gone. I missed her already - I'll miss her a lot more knowing she won't be back.
seperis wrote:
One of the most elegant writers I've ever encountered, and a brilliant meta writer as well.
cjandre wrote:
She was such a force in fandom. Nobody really wrote like her. And she had an amazing sense of humor.
mona1347 wrote:
Her writing freaking owns my ass with the mythic imagery and color and light and meaning dripping from every syllable. 'Lush' is the best, most inclusive word I can think of to describe it. She was just the best kind of LJ friend to have around. Smart-smart-smart and talented and funny and porny and in general a sweet, welcoming human being.
digitalwave wrote:
The world lost a very special soul with her death. She was good, kind, giving, sexy, talented as heck and so much fun to spend time with. She could use words to delight, to teach, to take you to the heights of joy and then rip your heart out in the very next turn of phrase. And you loved every single minute of the journey.
She was such a classy lady. Yet, at the very same time, she had this wonderfully bawdy sense of humor. She enjoyed the heck out of lusting over her boys and happily took us along for the ride. Her stories, her posts, her meta, they all just shone.
It never mattered to her how popular she was. There was never an instant of time that she ever acted like a diva. She was always welcoming to new fans and made you feel warm and loved. I'll never forget the first time she commented on something that I had created. It meant the world to me. I always felt that if someone that hugely talented could like my writing then maybe I wasn't so bad after all.
I hope that she can see just how loved she is, and how missed.
Tham, sweetie, wherever your spirit has gone I hope that you're at peace.
redfirecracker wrote:
Other people have spoken about her graciousness, her across-the-board kindness, her mastery of language and her lyricism and wit.
I was taking part in a medieval Clex challenge and remember tying myself up in knots when I heard that Thamiris was writing in the same time period. I moaned about how there was no way I could compete with her amazing writing and how much I worried that my story would look like a pathetic imitation of hers.
Tham wrote back and eased my mind when she could just as easily have ignored me and I would have been none the wiser. She always seemed willing to reach out a virtual hand and forge a connection when the simpler thing, the more commonly done thing, would have been to let the moment pass.
I read in her LJ last summer about the cancer that ultimately has taken her life, and I was shocked and appalled just like everyone else. Still, I thought, there was no way she would actually die. She was too brilliant, too powerful, too eloquent, too magical. She would keep Death at bay with her words and her wit and her charm, and we would bask in her reflected light for years to come.
And now this brilliant, powerful, eloquent, magical light has blown out, and the world is a darker place for it.
norwich36 wrote:
I always thought she was the kind of fan I wanted to be: an amazing writer and essayist, a warm and welcoming person and someone with an amazing lust for life and for beautiful boys.
I was so in awe of her writing talents that I almost never sent her feedback (which was dumb, because I could see from her journal how kind she was to newbies), and while I did finally get around to recommending some of her amazing stories, not just in SV but her Ares slash and her unbelievably beautiful bible slash, and her terrific SV meta, I really regret I let my shyness get in the way of interacting with her more, or letting her know exactly how much her writing had meant to me.
sextagteam wrote:
Her meta, especially 'Domestic Penetration: Queering the Home in Highlander, Buffy: The Vampire Slayer, The Sentinel, and Smallville,' is what really lead me to see the potential beauty and playfulness in analytical writing and inspired my own interest in media studies and fannish meta. This interest is ultimately what lead me to my choice of major, which will of course have a great impact of my life (or is that just what they tell you to lend the entire collegiate experience meaning?) I wish I could have communicated something of the impact she had on me to her. I will always remember her skill and joy with words, as well as her open and delighted attitude towards sexuality and art. They were a bright spot in fandom.
serrico wrote:
Her enthusiasm for her chosen fandoms was lusty and genuine; her expression of that enthusiasm includes some of the most evocatively-written fic and meta (and even grammar lessons!) any fandom has to offer. She loved words and beautiful men--and from my experience of her (we met in Smallville fandom), I think she loved 'em best when she brought them together.
crimsonclad wrote:
I was an LJ newbie (hence: nobody) when I friended her. And then-- she friended me back. And when hundreds of people posted replies to her posts, she'd still reply to me like she knew and liked me. And as if the kindness on her own journal wasn't enough, she even replied to one of my posts once - which meant she had read it. Thamiris! One of the most famous people in the SV fandom! Seeing her familiar and famous icon on my own little journal was something else.
morganya wrote:
Thamiris was brilliant and bawdy and funny and kind, on the few occasions when I could work up the nerve to say something to her, and her stories were something else. They were as much about her love of language itself as sex, and I've never known anyone who could write sex the way she could. One of her scenes, where Lex Luthor talks on the phone to Clark Kent while getting a blow job from a male hooker who looks just like Clark, haunts me years after I first read it. She was the person I wanted to be like when I was twenty-one, shameless and frank and able to get underneath the surface of anything, whether it was writing or the nature of desire or fannish love, and still, somehow, completely accessible and supportive.
She was a teacher. She loved Chaucer and art and food and the architecture of churches and bad television. She loved her family. She loved sex and talking about sex. How much I admired her and how much I still do.
carmarthen wrote:
I deeply admired her smart, intellectual, articulate passion. I never knew her to be anything but a kind, wonderful woman.
athenejen wrote:
Her stories are really amazing, aren't they? Consistently so, and the very best are among the best I've ever read, or expect to ever read, for that matter. I don't think I ever told her how much her stories touched me. I should have.
kelliem wrote:
It makes me so sad to think it. Thamiris has passed away. She was such an amazing writer, and an even more amazing person with such gusto and guts and grace, and we are surely poorer for her absence. She was one in a million. One of the most genuinely nice people I've ever known. We'll miss you, hon.
minim-calibre wrote:
Thamiris passed away too young, too soon. She was a brilliant writer; her words could turn a sow's ear into silk or straw into gold. She could make the sacred profane, and the profane sacred. Once, she sent me a fantastically detailed LOC that thrilled and humbled me, and frankly, was probably better reading than my original story, seeing as it was filled with her words. Best freaking piece of feedback I ever got. I'm not sure I ever got to tell her that. I suspect she'd have laughed at my Wayne's World-style response.
Her joy was infectious, and her wit was a sleek, lush thing, joyous and ribald and welcoming.
She made me think, she made me laugh, she made me smile.
Like so many others, I'll miss her.
ladycat777 wrote:
Thamiris was an incredible woman.
lost2mercy wrote:
She was such a beautiful soul.
wrenlet wrote:
She was an amazing woman.
suzycat wrote:
You know, what I loved about Tham was that she was a BNF with a zillion commenters on her LJ and yet she had this wonderful ability to seemingly know us all and speak so kindly and just - be genuinely friend-like.
itsaslashything wrote:
It grieves me that she is gone. The world lost a truly good person.
wagacca wrote:
I didn't really know her at all, but her fic touched me and stayed with me in a way very little does. I'm just glad I managed to send her feedback on one of my favorite fics of all time while I still had the chance. Her talent and her energy will be missed.
myashke wrote:
I didn't know her, but I knew her work and cherished every word. I read anything she wrote - didn't care what fandom - because she was a master word-crafter. Nothing seems appropriate to say, except this: she made our lives more fun, colorful, passionate and beautiful.
djinanna wrote:
She was without a doubt one of my early LJ idols, for her gracious ability to attract large amounts of comments to her posts (because those posts were exuberant and erudite and usually sheer fun) and handle/respond to those comments and all that stuff. Rest in peace, Thamiris, may your afterlife, whatever it is, be filled with juicy boys doing lovely, filthy things to one another.
lyrebird wrote:
Back in 2002, LJ was a very different place to what it is now. Thamiris'd pose intriguing topics and people would reply in their hundreds. Most amazing of all, she responded to every single comment. Unfailingly. They were friends... but many were also big fans of her work, her posts - her entire online persona. Her chatty warmth and enthusiasm charmed many. She virtually became a fandom of her own. Time went on, and I came to realise the kind of person she was: very gregarious, passionate, opinionated... and extraordinarily generous to friends and newbies alike. I'll always be grateful to her and I admire her for the way she stood up for PWPs and writing sex for its own sake. It's strange browsing her journal and site knowing she won't update anymore. A tragic shame she's gone.
kylandra wrote:
She was always incredibly kind, hilarious and staggeringly brilliant. I didn't talk to her a lot because, frankly, I was in awe of her, and it's difficult for me to talk to people I really respect and admire. I'm sad about that now. I'll miss her, and fandom as a whole is poorer for her absence.
laceymcbain wrote:
Thamiris was such a vibrant presence in the world, and her exuberance came through in the way she wrote. I always admired her ability to speak so eloquently and freely, with a passion that was hard to rival, about Smallville and other topics. Her voice will be missed here.
oxoniensis wrote:
It just feels wrong, you know. Someone so full of life and talent and joy. I somehow think she'd rather we all wrote porn and talked about the poetry of Clark's naked body or Remus' wolfish sexual appetites than mourned, but I can't help feeling horribly saddened by the loss of such a wonderful and talented woman. Thamiris, I'll miss you, but I hope there's some other place where you can meet up with Chaucer and exchange dirty banter to your porny heart's content.
selyons wrote:
I remember bugging her years ago to write something outside of fandom -- not that I think her fandom writing wasn't fabulous, but I wanted to see her name on a real book, and see what she would do with her wonderful talent. I could see her writing some Victorian suspense fantasy with beautiful tragic men in love with immortals who could never make them happy. But she was a scholar in RL and while we in fandom will always be able to enjoy her writing, the non-fandom lost a potential star.
I am sick about this. What a bright light; what a loss.
estrella30 wrote:
When I first got into Smallville fandom about four seasons after the rest of the world, I sent an email to thamiris after I'd read a bunch of her stories to let her know how much I enjoyed them. She emailed me back right away, and was one of the kindest, most gracious, wonderful people I'd met. Her writing was amazing. She was always smart, thoughtful, eloquent and just a wonderful person to be in the same fandom with. Any interaction I ever had with her always involved a lot of swooning over her boys, a lot of of squeeing, and a lot of laughs. She will be truly, truly missed.
cesperanza wrote:
The thing is, what I'm going to miss about Thamiris is her gorgeous and excessive gusto, her deep commitment to literary and sexual hedonism. She was just smart and sexy and unashamed and really knew how to tap into her pleasure-center -- and ours. I miss her voice on my flist. That was a woman, you know?
like-cheap-wine wrote:
To think that she will never write again, that I will never see her post brighten my flist, it fills me sadness. She had a way with words, she could turn anything into poetry, turn any subject into porn and make you pant and beg for more. And when she wrote about bodies and sex and Clex, she could turn on anyone. One of my favourite post of hers, Kissing The Rod. And then there are the fics. Wilde Like is one of the first SV fic I ever read, and I still think that it has one of the hottest scenes ever.
anoel wrote:
I loved her intelligent meta and the way she could make anything sexy and have that come across in words so well. And when I did leave a comment she was always so nice to me. I'm amazed by her writing talent, I still consider her the most beautiful writer ever. As an example: 'I do love the slippery flow of poetry, the sighing puffed breath from the rounded belly of an a, the clanging of c's thrown horseshoe, the broken gasp of t's dying cross. Words never cease to stun me, even the simple sounds of each individual letter. Truly, humanity's greatest feat has been the invention of the alphabet, with its lullaby cadence and divine powers.'
roxymissrose wrote:
What a wonderful writer she was, and what a fascinating person.
ruric wrote:
She was warm and witty, vastly intelligent and erudite, uncompromising (at times) and challenging. She modded a list (KSA) that was one of my early introductions to fandom and showed how to build a community that would both fight tooth and claw at times and yet could still laugh together. She gave me words of wisdom and something to hold onto once when I needed them.
eyebrowofdoom wrote:
Thamiris has died. She was ace. That was a massive intellect there, with a standout talent for prose styling. When you add that she was an enthusiastic and vigorous pornographer, someone who was fearless enough to be direct about the joy of writing dirty stories about men fucking, and you have the ultimate trifecta of everything I admire in a fanfiction writer. She was also an energetically gracious and engaging member of the slash community.
jolie-reader wrote:
She had an impact on me, and on the way I think about writing. When I first started reading fic, Thamiris was one of my favorite authors, and I still love all her stories. I ripped through everything she wrote and waited for more (even finding a new entry on LJ was a kind of treat). She was one of the first people I friended, and I was so thrilled when she friended me back. It's hard to believe she's never going to write anything else. I'm going to miss her, and I know there must be a lot of other lurkers out there who feel the same way.
ariss-tenoh wrote:
God but that woman had a gift for the written word. She could make a reader bleed with just one sentence.
suzume-tori wrote:
You can look at a star shine even after it's gone out, and you won't ever know that all you're seeing is the residual light. If ghosts or angels or spirits can read the internet, Thamiris will see all the comments left to her - both by those who know of her death, and by those who haven't realized it - and Thamiris? If you're reading this? Thank you very much. You made very beautiful things; I wish I'd known you. Whatever it was that made you write so well, I hope it was something that carries over. I hope your shine is yours to keep.
tasabian wrote:
Thamiris was brilliant - I go back and re-read her stories all the time. She made so many Clex fans very happy.
mistressace wrote:
Thamiris: incredible Smallville writer. I miss her every day.
I knew Tham, and she was a friend, and such a sweet and wonderful person. She is in my heart, until this day. I won't deny that remembering her... remembering that she's not with us any longer... has made me cry. Some people just make such an impact on your life in so many ways, and that's hard to let go of. She was a wonderful writer and a wonderful woman, not afraid to voice her opinion, always looking for the silver lining even when it was hidden behind the clouds. And if there was no silver lining to be found, she created one for us. Words cannot express the amount of impact she had on fandom, and how much she will be missed.
autumnyte wrote:
I'm saddened profoundly that Thamiris passed away. I'm not sure if I'd have loved Smallville as much as I did, without her smart and enthusiastic meta. Fandom in specific, and the world at large has lost a brilliant, talented, kind, and extremely classy person. And we've lost her far too soon.
themadtapper wrote:
I met Tham online so long ago, when the KSmithares list was having that war over chocolate sauce... Thanks to that list I got to meet so many wonderful people who have become truly great, close friends now. For that I will be forever grateful to Tham. I hope she is at peace.
She was a wonderful writer, and had such a buoyant spirit.
She was such an amazing woman.
I had no idea that she was sick and when I found out that she died, I just completely lost it. I can't imagine a world without her in it, you know? Just the thought of never reading anything new from her again breaks my heart. Even though I didn't know her personally I can honestly say that I just loved everything about her. I think I loved reading her journal posts as much if not more than her stories sometimes. When I think about my time in the Smallville fandom and all the things I loved about it, she's at the top of the list. A truly great lady, I think it would have been a real treat to know her in RL.
I like the idea of Kevin Smith meeting her in the Elysian Fields, I think I'd like to remember her that way.
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